Just think about it this way;
you've worked hard earning a living for them in their younger years and when they become adults their most concern is getting where they want to be, even if its getting your mother out of the way. They use you for everything you got and turn around and think you owe them. I would think that if my sister needed a place to stay that I would say "stay here". but instead not only does she kick her mother out, she kicks her sister (by the way use to be best friends when they were kids) out of her apartment. I guess I should say is that in some time in our lives, "do we become selfish and greedy?". or did I raise my kids to be the way they are?
My youngest turns 18 and she has her whole life ahead of her. I am ...with no income, homeless, and unable to help her, which at one time I helped them for 17 yrs or so, and now I feel helpless. My aide of 500 a month stops (I will no longer receive any money) and my choice is to either help her get a place or save it for myself (as I mentioned, greedy and selfish) I have no one to depend on...I have never been a selfish person or rude, although I have been critical at times but not towards my children (at least I don't recall)...
yesterday ..both my youngest daughters bashed me at my appearance, my lifestyle and my medication i am taking...I felt like crying and I did once I laid my head down upon my pillow. Everything my kids told me that they wouldn't do, like abandoned me or be rude, disrespectful, critical or all of the above, it happened to me yesterday...so crying does nothing but make things worst, puffy eyes, running nose and red face...I am force into a position to completely stay out of my kids lives...would you do that to your mother?
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